The lady from AM

I'll be honest. I've never had much luck with on-line dating services, including Ashley Madison. So why then did I go back to AM to look for a new playmate? I guess I figured I was due to "get lucky" this time. I'd had two or three "close calls"...but never got to a first meeting. It's not that I'm bored with the two ladies I'm seeing now (even though one of them now has a steady BF), and no it's not because I might be considered a "dog". Maybe it's the thrill of the chase or the thrill (or fear) of the unknown.

So I signed up on AM in October, but really didn't start looking until just before Thanksgiving. That's when I first met C. I'm not sure why she decided to answer my email, but I'm glad she did. We've been trading emails back and forth since. I gave her access to my pictures after we'd traded 4 emails. She apologized for not having any photos on her profile but she told me I wouldn't be disappointed when we saw each other face to face. I accepted that; something in the back of my mind told me this was not just BS.

Over the course of our email exchanges I've learned that she's been married for 20 years and she's only been with two men...the one who took her virginity in high school and her husband. She's in her mid-40's, curvy (what is it lately about me and curvy women?) and...she's African-American. (She didn't tell me that till the third email - was she afraid I'd freak out?) Race has never ever been an issue for me. But it does raise an interesting question.

I follow two blogs where the couples are interracial...in both cases it's a African-American man and a caucasian woman. So I wonder how many interracial couples are the opposite...inquiring minds want to know. (In case you know of a blog where it's white guy/black woman, let me know.)

Anyway C and I finally met face to face for the first time today for lunch. She's charming, funny and yes, curvy. Pleasantly curvy. She certainly didn't appear to be nervous. We talked about a number of things before I finally got around to "the question."

What exactly are you looking for?

After all, a profile can reveal (or not) only so much. And honestly this question had not come up in our email exchange.

She wanted to experience sex with someone a little older (her hubby is 5 years her junior). And yes, she'd wanted to be with a white guy. Well, check and check.

On the way back to her workplace, she told me that she felt very comfortable with me. I told her I felt the same and that I was looking forward to getting to know her better. After I stopped the car, she grabbed my hand and thanked me for a nice lunch. It wasn't a grab-the-hand for a handshake. It was a grab-your-hand to hold it. I gave her a hug and kissed her cheek before she got out.

Later this afternoon I got a text message from her.

"Thanks 4 lunch. Can't wait 2 c u again."

The feeling is mutual.